Author: Jamie

What To Do When You Feel Overwhelmed

Overwhelm

As I work through my transformational tidy-up, going through everything I own, I definitely notice the truth in the old saying, “It gets worse before it gets better.” That certainly was the case when I did my Studio Refresh, both online and off (pictured above).  Finding my way through the overwhelm has led to some beautiful results and reminded me of just how much I am capable of.

Overwhelm can show up in so many ways at so many junctures and it can shut us down. It’s like our circuits get flooded and we just kaput. How do we find our way through without pushing our way through, which so many of us have tried and so many of us have paid for.

When does overwhelm show up?

On a practical level, overwhelm appears when there is a disconnect between what we feel needs to be done and the resources we have to meet the task(s) at hand. When the demands are greater than the time, money, energy or emotional capacity we have, we get overwhelmed.

One of the things that can be surprising and discouraging, even distressing, is when overwhelm shows up around something you love.

You’re invited to a party or out to dinner and you’re looking forward to it until the day or the hours before when suddenly you find yourself overcome with dread. What do I wear? What do I say? What do I do? How do I get there? What if I don’t know anyone? What if I don’t like anyone? What if they don’t like me?

Or you finally sit down to create some art and are hit by a wave of unexpected emotion. What the heck?! I thought this was going to be fun! Where are these tears coming from? I don’t know what to do or where to start! I’m finally creating and I hate what’s coming out of my fingertips!

When that happens, our natural protective instinct is to “Shut it down. Shut it all down!” (Think C3P0 stopping all the trash compactors!)

How do we respect the truth of where we are in this moment while moving towards what we love and desire? How do we deal with overwhelm?

Strategies for Facing Overwhelm

As conscious creatives, we can actively respond to overwhelm. We can show up like actors doing improv, seeing what is offered up to us and responding lithely to what’s present.

Stop

The first thing to do is to stop. Just stop. Stop the autopilot. Stop the habitual response. Stop the whirling dervish. Let the world slow down for a minute.

Take a Moment

There is time for you to take a moment, to feel your feet on the ground, to come back to yourself instead of being caught up in the tornado. Take a moment. Breathe.

Move

Then move. Move away from what you’re doing, even if it’s just getting up out of your chair and walking down the hall and back. Changing your environment changes your perspective. Moving your body helps the built-up energy release and pass through you and that will help you function well and think clearly. Often just going for a quick walk can shift something, clear something, open something. There is magic in movement.

Pour the Chaos Out

Next, sit down with a piece of paper and pour all of the chaos onto the page. Pour out everything that’s coming up, every idea that’s niggling at you, every to-do that’s asking for your attention. Let the page hold the work. You don’t have to hold it all. Once these things have their due on the page, they can stop nagging you for attention. They won’t be forgotten so they don’t need to keep reminding you that they’re there.

What’s Next?

Now that you’re a bit more grounded and you’ve cleared your energy and your mind, come back to the task.

What’s the next step?

Maybe the next step is a baby step, something small and simple and easily achieved.

Maybe the next step is the one that’s stressing you the most. With it out of the way, you’ll be able to relax.

Maybe the next step is the one you have time for.

You don’t have to figure it all out. Just the next step.

Take a Step

Next (you know what I’m going to say, don’t you?), take the step.

It is a powerful grounding practice to end the cycle of overwhelm with an action, no matter how big or how small. It grounds you and builds your confidence when each interaction with the whirlwind of overwhelm ends with you moving forward.

I know you can do it.

Recuperate

There’s one more step in this dance with overwhelm: the pause. Take time to recuperate. Listen to a song you love. Spend 3 minutes looking out your window. Chat with a friend. Make a cup of tea. Yes, stop and smell the roses.

It’s a big deal to face the challenges in our creative lives and to do so with awareness and intention. Taking a few minutes to refill our well will give us more resources to draw on the next time our life demands something of us. Resting and recuperating is a part of the work.

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Nothing Says Love Like Cookies

Cookie Ingredients

It’s a very cold Valentine’s and Justin’s under the weather so I thought a wonderful way to spend the afternoon would be watching movies and enjoying cookies fresh out of the oven!

Cookie Cookery

I pulled out my old standby, Cookie Cookery by John J. Zenker & Hazel G. Zenker.

Hazel's Chocolate Chip Cookies

I have been making Hazel’s Chocolate Chip Cookies since I was 12 years old. They are still my absolute, very, very favourite and are so easy to make. I wish I could pour you a cup of coffee or make you a tea and share a plate of cookies for Valentine’s. I guess the next best thing is sharing the recipe.

Hazel’s Chocolate Chip Cookies

1/2 cup shortening or butter (I always use butter)
1/2 cup brown sugar
14 cup white sugar

Cream butter and both sugars until light.

1 egg
1 Tbsp water
1/2 tsp vanilla

Beat egg, add with water and vanilla to sugar mixture and blend.

1 1/4 all-purpose flour
1/8 tsp salt
1/2 tsp baking soda

Sift together and combine with egg-sugar mixture.

1 6-oz package chocolate chips.

Add to flour mixture, adding love as you stir. (I added that part!)

Drop from teaspoon 2 inches apart on greased and lightly floured cookie pan. (I use a silpat)
Bake at 360 for 10-12 minutes (approximately.

Enjoy! A sweet little treat from me to you on Valentine’s Day!

Valentine's & Chocolate Chips

Gather Love

A simple and beautiful creative living journal practice to honour love on Valentine’s Day and every day.

“What a cool idea to get your love/gratitude feelings into a snapshot moment page. Then revisit it or create a new one periodically. They could accumulate and create a love/gratitude record of life!” Julie

stART: A Whirlwind of Giggles

Every couple of weeks I film stART: Creating as We Go with my two sisters, Suzie and Shannon. We share our creative projects, from challenges to celebrations, and support each other’s creative lives. We hope we’ll inspire you to get creating too!

On episode 43: We had quite an interesting time recording this episode! Although many tech woes countered our attempts, The Ridler Sisters prevailed! We even tried Google Hangouts for the first time – and may even do more in the future! We also had a lovely listener question from Dara – thanks Dara! As always, we share what we are up to creatively, with projects new and projects abandoned, viewpoints changed and staying on course. It’s a whirlwind of a show and we hope you enjoy it.

In this episode we mention:

Keep up-t0-date with stART: Creating As We Go

stART 43

Bad Coffee, A Year of Dreams & Your Impact

Every weekday morning I invite you Behind the Scenes at my studio.

Today: My mom didn’t hold back when she didn’t like the coffee, in part because she didn’t think her reaction had any impact – but I believe we all have impact – and recently some viewers have had an impact on me!

Mentioned on Today’s Show:

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